Everyone has an inner critic, an inside voice that tells us negative things about ourselves. This short video explains where the voice comes from and how you can work against it. It’s a cool little video, if you have time, check it out!
Are You Dissatisfied at Your Job? You Don’t Have to Be.
At some point or another in your life you may realize you are unhappy with your work and you need to find a new job, or “reinvent” your career. Bottom line is you want to do something new, but how can you possible figure out what that is?! Did you know that people who have no job are happier than those who have a job they don’t like? Yes, that is an amazing fact so let me say that again - people who are not working are happier than those who have a job that is crappy! So, if you have a job you just don’t like, you’ll need to change it, but what will you do instead? How can you possibly figure it out? Well, science has come to the rescue! Here’s some highlights from a recent article titled How to find fulfilling work, according to science:
- garner respect not money
- helping others makes us feel good
- do what you are good at and what you like
- get into the zone when you’re working
- have some level of autonomy
The same way there is not only one love of your romantic life, there is not only one job for you. You may need to explore different things before you find something that feels fulfilling and satisfying. However when looking, take into consideration these points so that you can keep your search focused on something that will have long term benefits for you. If you are interested in reading more about this in depth, check out the article How to find fulfilling work, according to science. Actually go read it, now, cause hey you might learn something really useful!
Learn about The National Suicide Prevention Hotline
After the loss of Robin Williams, I think it’s important to remember even if you are hurting there are people out there to help.
“The National Suicide Prevention Lifeline is available 24/7/365 to provide confidential counseling in a crisis. People have called us for help with substance abuse, economic worries, relationship and family problems, sexual orientation, illness, getting over abuse, depression, mental and physical illness, and even loneliness. By calling 1-800-273-TALK (8255) you’ll be connected to a skilled trained counselor at a crisis center in your area, anytime 24/7.”
Also, check out Lifeline E-cards - a way to send an e-card and let someone know that you care about them!
Having Courage in the Face of Fear
Sometimes having courage means having the willingness to be vulnerable in the face of scary circumstances. Gavin Aung Thang is a comic book artist who adapts quotes that inspire and motivate him to have courage and be vulnerable into a cartoon blog. Brene Brown interviews him here, where he talks about his journey. If you’ve ever struggled with feeling good enough or being vulnerable, please check out his site.
The world breaks everyone and afterward many are strong at the broken places.
Learn 3 Words to Help Save Your Relationship
My friend and colleague Jim Walker, LCSW (who practices psychotherapy in Louisville, Kentucky) recently wrote an article about being in conflict with a partner. It’s at these times we can feel like there’s only two things we can do - either attack the other or retreat into ourselves, scared, frightened and angry. But, as Jim points out, there’s a third option that could really save us and our relationship - stepping into our vulnerability. Here’s an excerpt from his article:
"Loneliness- the scarcity of belonging- is a devastating and destructive experience. It is even crueler and more corrosive when it must be endured in the presence of someone whom we have loved and with whom we have experienced comfort, happiness, and safety."
Wow, yes, this is so true. There is nothing more painful than feeling alone in the presence of someone we really love. Read more of Jim’s article here to learn the list of three word phrases that can help you step into your vulnerability and save your relationship.
At the end of our lives, each of us will look back and wonder what really mattered. It won’t be busyness. It’ll be that we were able to love and be intimate with others, that we enjoyed beauty and were creative in some manner. That we lived our lives fully.
The busyness now is in pursuing some accomplishment, commodity, or recognition we think we want. We race to the end of our lives. Then at the finish line, we realize we’ve barely skimmed the surface.