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And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom.
Steve Jobs’ vision of the world
YOU KNOW MORE - Woodblock Print - 2009
Get Creative
One simple way you can work towards living a more fulfilling and satisfying life is to find things you love to do and do them! For some, being creative is one way to do this. I recently stumbled across a website called Silk where you can create intricate designs and patterns by moving your mouse around the page. Silk was created by Yuri Vishnevsky and can also be purchased as an ipad app. It’s also a great website to just have fun with and play. See some sample artwork below. So go check it out and get creative.


Literally, psychologist means ‘one who studies the soul’, we think of it as a scary word in our harsh-sounding, Germanic language, but it actually means something really beautiful. I also like that it is ambiguous as to whether it’s me studying my own soul, or yours, or you studying my soul, or me asking you to study your own. It’s like a big impossible object that goes around and around.
You live out the confusions until they become clear.
The Benefits of Psychotherapy
by Sam Goldstein, Ph.D
At some point in our cultural history, the relationship of one person helping another evolved to a point at which one person was officially designated as a helper. Helpers developed particular expertise, whether it be in fixing a broken wagon wheel, tracking game, healing illness, offering spiritual or emotional guidance. In the latter case the mental health helper was likely an individual particularly blessed or gifted in his or her ability to assist others through trying times. Reliable research demonstrates that psychotherapy, or the guidance offered by mental health professionals, is neither unproven nor a luxury, but in fact a viable, empirically supported intervention.
The movement toward empirically supported or evidence based treatment is gaining momentum world wide, particularly in health care professions. Insurance companies are providing greater oversight in an effort to improve outcome for mental health issues. This reflects not just an effort to contain costs but a broader movement in which the insurance carrier is a consumer and the mental health provider a compensated employee directed at providing effective treatment for specific types of problems. The American Psychological Association has led the way in identifying empirically supported treatments and publicizing these treatments.
However our efforts thus far to identify evidenced based practices in mental health treatment are incomplete in three ways. First, practice guidelines are “personless.” They depict disembodied professionals performing “procedures” for individuals with specific mental illness. It is understandable that efficacy research goes to great lengths to eliminate individual therapist variables that might predict success, such that if a treatment is deemed to be effective we can be assured that it is not the therapist’s style but rather the treatment facilitating healing. However, this practice may be equivalent to throwing the baby out with the bath water. Multiple and converging lines of evidence indicate that the qualities of the psychotherapist are probably better indicators of successful treatment than the type of therapy provided. Researchers have identified that therapists’ qualities overshadow treatment models in predicting success.
Second, research efforts have focused upon validating the efficacy of treatments or technical interventions as opposed to understanding the therapy relationship or the therapist’s interpersonal skills. Yet, the largest percentage of outcome variance not attributed to pre-existing client characteristics involves individual therapist differences and the relationship developed between the therapist and client.
Finally, practice guidelines have been built around psychiatric conditions rather than around people. Diagnostic protocols in the technical manuals may be efficient for grouping individuals by symptoms and impairment but do not provide much insight in explaining differences in outcome among individuals with similar diagnoses.
Below are seven key findings in over ninety studies of psychotherapy demonstrating the importance of therapist qualities:
• There is a significant relationship between the therapeutic alliance and therapy outcome.
• Therapists who provide empathy have better outcome.
• Therapists who work toward a consensus and agreed upon set of goals with clients have a better outcome.
• Therapists who are warmly accepting of their clients without conditions have a better outcome.
• Therapists willing to share of their lives and be genuine and communicate their person to clients fare better.
• Therapists who provide consistent feedback are more successful.
• Therapists willing to accept responsibility in part when things do not go as planned have better outcome.
The current practice by insurance carriers of limiting psychotherapy visits is ineffective. In fact, individuals who manifest impairment in two or more important areas of life are likely in need of much longer and intensive courses of psychotherapy.
A task force report about psychotherapy by the American Psychological Association in 2002 closed with a four key recommendations. These are worth repeating.
1. Therapists are encouraged to make the creation and cultivation of a therapy relationship characterized by the elements found to be demonstrably and probably effective a primary aim in the treatment of patients.
2. Therapists are encouraged to adapt the therapy relationship to specific patient characteristics in the way shown to enhance therapeutic outcome.
3. Therapists are encouraged to routinely monitor patients’ response to the therapy relationship and ongoing treatment.
4. Concurrent use of empirically supportive relationships and empirically supported treatments tailored to the patients’ disorder and characteristics is likely to generate the best outcome.
Children and adults can and do benefit from psychotherapy when appropriate diagnoses are made, related life issues are understood, therapists possesses sufficient knowledge of the condition being treated, an appropriate treatment plan is developed and in particular, the therapist understands the critical human role he or she plays facilitating the treatment process. However, because of continued generic licensing and credentialing processes, not all psychotherapists are equal in their knowledge, techniques or understanding. Further, profit driven managed care insurance plans often limit not only the number of visits but the professionals an individual can access. These phenomena may work against good outcome in psychotherapy. When I am asked to recommend a therapist, I am careful to not only suggest individuals whom I know well and trust but to also suggest the person seeking therapy enter the first visit with a series of questions about the therapist’s background, training, mindset and ideas about treatment. Psychotherapy is first and foremost based on trust and the development of a working alliance. The foundation for confidence in a therapist is often based upon initial first impressions.
In our work together, Dr. Robert Brooks and I have focused increasingly on the therapist’s role in facilitating a resilient mindset in individuals struggling with life problems regardless of the therapist’s treatment model. Thus, we increasingly view psychotherapy as an opportunity for individuals to not only have specific problems addressed but to learn a broad set of thinking, feeling and interactive skills to facilitate stress hardiness. In our work we have increasingly focused on helping children and adults in therapy to develop a set of assumptions or attitudes about themselves that will positively influence their behavior and ultimately their lives. We believe that in turn their behavior and the skills they develop will influence the set of assumptions they possess so that a dynamic process is constantly operating. We have come to call this set of assumptions “a mindset.” Interested readers can examine any of our books, including our work for adults, The Power of Resilience (McGraw Hill) and for children Raising Resilient Children (McGraw Hill). We have come to understand and believe that individuals possessing a resilient mindset feel control in their lives. They are empathic. They communicate adequately. They know how to problem solve and make decisions. They are capable of establishing realistic goals for themselves. They learn from success and failure. They are compassionate, responsible and connected to others.
Seeking psychotherapy is frequently a decision made when problems persist, intensify or cause significant impairment. It is not an easy choice. However, seekers of such help can be assured our field is and will continue to refine effective techniques and strategies while maintaining our human touch.
Exercise Can Help Protect Against Future Emotional Stress (Psych Central)
Exercise may help people cope with anxiety and stress for an extended period of time after the workout, according to a new study.
Researchers compared how moderate intensity cycling for 30 minutes versus a 30-minute period of rest affected anxiety levels in a group of healthy college students.
Led by J. Carson Smith, Ph.D., assistant professor in the Department of Kinesiology at the University of Maryland, researchers assessed their state of anxiety before the period of activity or rest, 15 minutes after, and again after exposing them to a variety of highly arousing pleasant and unpleasant photographs, as well as neutral images.
At each point, participants answered 20 questions from the State-Trait Anxiety inventory, which is designed to assess different symptoms of anxiety.
Smith found that exercise and quiet rest were equally effective at reducing anxiety levels initially. However, once they were emotionally stimulated by being shown 90 photographs for 20 minutes, the anxiety levels of those who had rested went back up to their initial levels, while those who had exercised maintained their reduced anxiety levels.
“While it is well-known that exercise improves mood, among other benefits, not as much is known about the potency of exercise’s impact on emotional state and whether these positive effects endure when we’re faced with everyday stressors once we leave the gym,” said Smith, whose previous research explores how exercise and physical activity affect brain function, aging and mental health.
“We found that exercise helps to buffer the effects of emotional exposure. If you exercise, you’ll not only reduce your anxiety, but you’ll be better able to maintain that reduced anxiety when confronted with emotional events.”
“The set of photographic stimuli we used from the International Affective Picture System database was designed to simulate the range of emotional events you might experience in daily life,” Smith said. The International Affective Picture System is a database of photographs used in emotion research.
“They represent pleasant emotional events, neutral events and unpleasant events or stimuli. These vary from pictures of babies, families, puppies and appetizing food items, to very neutral things like plates, cups, furniture and city landscapes, to very unpleasant images of violence, mutilations and other gruesome things.”
The study findings suggest that exercise may play an important role in helping people to better endure life’s daily anxieties and stressors, according to the researcher.
His study was published in the journal Medicine and Science in Sports and Exercise.
Source:University of Maryland
8 Reasons to Cheer for Psychotherapy and to Broaden Its Availability (Psychology Today)
via Psychology Today:
According to a new large-scale review of therapy effectiveness research studies conducted by the American Psychological Association, the effectiveness of psychotherapy is very real. The impacts of psychotherapy are positive both on the psyche and on the body. In addition to easing emotional distress, psychotherapy helps reduce the need for physical health services and produces long-term physical as well as emotional health improvements…
…As a result of their effectiveness review project, the APA’s Council of Representatives last week adopted a resolution on psychotherapy effectiveness. The resolution cites more than 50 peer-reviewed studies on psychotherapy and its effectiveness in treating a spectrum of health issues and with a variety of populations, including children, members of minority groups and the elderly.
The resolution reports the following findings, all reasons to cheer for psychotherapy and to make these services more broadly available.
1. Research demonstrates that psychotherapy is effective for a variety of mental and behavioral health issues and across a spectrum of population groups.
2. The average effects of psychotherapy are larger than the effects produced by medications for reducing negative emotional states like anxiety, anger, and depression.
3. Grouping together many studies to a analyze their overall findings, the large overview study found that psychotherapy reduces physical and emotional disability, death rates and psychiatric hospitalizations.
4. Psychotherapy also leads to improved functioning at work.
5: Psychotherapy teaches life skills that last far beyond the course of treatment. Individual psychotherapy can teach skills ways of thinking that reduce vulnerability to depression, anger, fears and anxiety. Couples therapy teaches skills for better communication, conflict resolution and anger management—skills that significantly improve the quality of marriages and prevent divorces. Family therapy teaches skills for becoming a better parent, in turn helping children to grow into happier and healthier adults.
6. The results of psychotherapy tend to last longer than drug treatments.
7. Unlike drug treatments, psychotherapy rarely produces harmful side effects such as the weight gain, lowered sex drive, emotional agitation, fuzzy-headedness or other potential side effects of psychological medications.
8. While medication is appropriate in some instances, research shows that in general the effects produced by psychotherapy are comparable or better than the effects produced by drug treatments for the same disorders.
“As Americans grapple with the ever-increasing cost of health care, it is important that consumers and those who make decisions about health care access understand the potential value in both improved outcomes and cost-saving of psychotherapies,” Vasquez said. “APA applauds and continues to support collaboration of psychologists with other health care providers as part of integrated health care teams. Psychotherapies are highly effective, but only when consumers have access to them.”
